Has Wrapping Hair Ever Been Sexy?
When it comes to hair and sex, people of color know things can get a little complicated. Ladies and gents, especially my melanin blessed brothers and sisters, you know that wrapping your hair before going to bed is a must for us, in order to keep our tresses and waves in order. The use of head wraps, du rags, and curl rollers is such a commonly known fact that we can see them worn by some of the sexiest star in music and film. I mean Trey Songs held it down for the du rag, and Rihanna changed a nightly routine into enchanting evening look.
And though they have been glamorized only recently, we all know that these wraps primarily serve the utilitarian purpose of keeping your “do” right. I mean what would our baby hairs do without them?
So if we know we all use it, and we know we all need it, why do we make sure a big deal about it when it comes to a headscarf during sex? And what can we do to get it right in the sheets without having sex hair in the morning?
Is the Look Never OK?
Let’s not get crazy now. I am firm believer in the school of thought that full transparency is important. I also know that it is a pain and a half to try to restyle my hair after sleeping without a satin head wrap. Even one day without some sort of protection can have your fro askew, your weave matted, or your braids fuzzy. So don’t go throwing out your hair wraps and du-rags just yet.
“Sometimes, I need my hair wrap to express the unspoken thought, “I’m tired and not in the mood!””
It would be silly to pretend that you don’t use something so common and vital to those in our community, no matter who you date. I mean, gents would you let your fresh Thursday hair cut get fuzzy by Saturday? Ladies, after all those hours in the chair, do you really want to go back for a touch up a couple days later? No!
And if we are being totally honest, sometimes, I need my hair wrap to express the unspoken thought, “I’m tired and not in the mood!”
At the end of the day, your partner will need to accept that this is a part of your self-care routine and though they may not like it, they will certainly need to respect it. And don’t worry, AllTheFUQs.com has got you with ways to break the ice in bed without break your ends.
How to Keep it Sexy
Below are some tips and tricks for you ladies and gents to use to keep they bedroom spicy without killing your curls.
Do-Rag Killing The Vibe
Tying up our hair, can signal to our partner a lack of sexual desire and Try trading in the do-rag or head warp for satin pillow cases. They are easy to find and inexpensive at most beauty supply stores. This can also be helpful if you find yourself reaching for your hair wrap even when just relaxing, even before you are actually ready for bed.
This Wash And Go is Really a Was, Set, Dry for 10 Hours and Go
Hair of a thicker texture takes time to style and even longer to properly dry. Try jumbo plaits or double strand twists, and create a crown braid. Or try out a cute bantu knot look! You’ll look regal, feel sexy, and still look great in the morning.
Nah.. Don’t Touch, I Just Got Fresh Braids
Role play, role play, role play. Homie make that do-rag a look, embody Jay-Z and get to work
Feeling Frisky but Edges Need to Set
Embody Rihanna and tie that bandana around your crown stylishly. While your at it, let try letting the style create a character and see where it takes you!
It’s Thursday but Wash Day Isn’t Until Sunday
Thats ok. In the case that perhaps your hair is beginning to have an odor, try using an small amount of essential oil like peppermint on your scalp. This both soothes a dry scalp and smothers and stench.
A Satin Pillow Won’t Do, I Need My Hair Wrap
I hear you, I hear you. I personally prefer the security of a hair wrap to a satin pillow and take one with me everywhere. In this case, try tying your wrap in new and creative hair styles, like the pineapple. And just in case, step up your lingerie and bed time apparel to offset your hair wrap.
The FUQS
There is no need to pretend. Though you do not have to show all your cards all at once, there is no need to think that wrapping your hair, whether male or female makes you any less sexy or attractive.
If it a part of your self-care routine why change that just as an attempt to impress someone else? Self-care is important
Confidence will always be the sexiest thing you can wear. Trust.