Considering this is a sex blog, it only makes sense to talk about sexting! Sex and technology have been finding more and more interesting ways to overlap and merge overtime. Often times, when sex and technology do collide the main concern and interest is quick satisfaction meanwhile safety and privacy are considered less important to consider. But how can that be when we see how often technology has been used to exploit people’s sex and personal lives? Celebrities and normal folk alike have seen the less positive and sometimes dangerous side of sexting. So the question remains, is there a sexting guide that create a safe way to sext? And is it for us?
The Original Sexting
“Where do you want to touch me first?”
Sexting in not necessarily a revolutionary idea, but certainly something to be expected with all the growth in technology. It used to be that you would have to go to a peep show, paying some change to see something strange. My own family members relish on the times the would be able to peep through the glass and see some bare breasts before the glass was covered once again. Adding to the regular gentlemen’s clubs and burlesque joints, peep shows were a faster way to juice up your sex hormones with a partner or by yourself.
With video, naturally porn exploded and has migrated from video to faster clickable links on the internet. So it should only be expected that with mobile computers in out pockets, sexting was the next frontier.
The Good in Sexting
It is hard for me to find or even believe anyone who has not seen and received a sext. I mean I know there are some flip phones out there that could even tell some very interesting stories on some folk out in these streets. So in 2019 is it even realistic to expect that any one’s phone won’t have some private folders or sections of their camera roll they move over very quickly?
“Come over and be ready”
Sexting as a Guide to Confidence
The truth is that sexting can be a real confidence booster for your self esteem. Even though any sext can be sent to someone does not mean that they have to be. When considering a sexting guide, it should first be considered as a peep show to yourself. A sexy photo has helped me many times with my insecurities on days when I feel more like a s shell than a person.
I understand confidence to be one of the sexiest traits that any one person can have. So to be able to take look at yourself and immortalize your sexiness speaks volumes to your confidence and how much you are appreciative of you. Sexting myself with my own images has often left me pleasantly surprised on how much I could turn myself own. That confidence then spills over to my partner, in my ability to take charge in our sex lives, be more forceful, playful and direct.
Sexting Is A New Way to Communicate
“Only you can make me this hard”
When I am in a new relationship it can be hard to gauge what my partner thinks is sexy. Then I get in my head and begin to doubt my own natural sexy. Then, once my relationship has become seasoned, it can be challenging to know how to push the limits of sex. If I know doggy style and candle stick will set it off, how can I introduce new positions, ideas without messing up the flow me and my partner have developed?
Sexting can be a sexy, less intimidating way to learn your partner’s fantasies and develop your own. Once getting over the initial queasiness of sending a sext, asking great sexting questions like “What’s your fantasy,” or “Where do you want to touch me first?” can get your partner pumped in more places than one.
I have used it as a refreshing way to start a new conversation with my partners. With someone that I enjoy toying with, sexting keeps things tantalizing, even if we can’t see each other for a while. Having words and pictures to hold on to and get off on helps stimulate my memory of partner and build up the intensity of my orgasm the next time we are together.
The Danger In Sexting
Sexting is fun, exhilarating and obviously sexy. But it would as is the case with most things we put out in to the tech stratosphere, it does not always remain as private as we would hope it to be.
Age Limits
“Let’s try something new tonight”
Sexts are just like in texts, in that they do not respect age limits or any other restrictions. That means that sending or receiving sexts when underage (18 years of age) can quickly become a serious and dangerous issue. In some cases, sexts have been understood to be a form of child pornography. Sexts can be easy and harmless to send but being unaware of who they go to can, and has caused serious issues.
Sexting Has No Limits on Exposure
Sexting is something that I like to think as having exponential growth exposure. What do I mean by that? Well, when we sent a text there is no way to regulate who where that image ends. Leaving full trust in the “sendee” there is no way for you to keep those sexts private. With screenshots, copy and paste, snapchat videos, and the zillion other social media platforms, how could we possibly expect to be able to harness control of our own images?
With that said, there is really no way to regulate sexting and sext images being sent to you. I have been sent more sexts of penis up against FiOS remote controls than I would like to admit, and I can tell you that I did not ask for most of them. Men, in an attempt to be forward have sent me sexts that disinterested me. This is when I wish sexting was not so normal and they instead of a sext back they get an unexpected block.
And then there is of course image manipulation. Images can be manipulated more than smudging out imperfections and adding glitter. OKAY! These days it is not even wise to trust everything you see!
What to Consider for Safe Sexting
So when considering sexting someone new or someone you have known forever, take a moment to really consider what you are doing. I know this sounds crazy since it takes all of half a second to send a text but taking the extra moment really does make all the difference. Consider that some people, even some that we consider friends have no chill or respect for your privacy.
THE FUQS
If sexting is a must consider sexting words rather than images
Sexting can sometime be challenging to get started but can help bring fantasies into sexual realities
Sexting does not have to go further than yourself. It can be a great way to turn yourself on or to build the confidence to turn on your partner.
