So you’ve want to have sex but do not feel the urges and sensations to have sex? You’re libido has taken a permanent dive or comes in and out making it difficult for you to enjoy sexual freedoms by yourself or with a partner?
We get it. Here are seven ways to lock into your libido for more fun, pleasurable sex.
Stop the blame game.
It happens, so please don't go judging yourself or damning your sexual organs. We understand your frustration, trust me. There is nothing to be ashamed of. It happens. Besides, the blame game won’t help get you or your partner’s libido back.
Be aware of what you are ingesting.
What you put in your system can help or abate your libido.
There are herbs that have been said to help with sex drive and prowess.
Contraceptives such as birth control pills may or may not lower desire due to a decrease in testosterone release. There are various schools of thought so check in and see how your body is responding to about 3 months of contraception pills.
Tackle your stressors.
Stress and depressions are two prominent reasons for libido drops. If you are spending so much time thinking about the list of things you need to get done, you are leaving less room for mental and physical stimulation.
Work out or relax.
I know, these seems to be contradicting ideas, but they actually do not have to be! Sometimes, a lack of physical activity can lower your sex drive or your ability to remain energized/in the mood. That gives a new motivation to follow through with your workout routine.
Relaxation is the other end of that pendulum. Often time we overwork ourselves and put ourselves in circumstances that are mentally and physically strenuous. Give yourself permission to check out from the bullshi*t and check in with yourself.
Tell the truth.
Is your libido actually trying to tell you something? Are you sexually enticed by your partner? Are you bored with a sexual routine that you’ve fallen in to?
Ask your mama.
Some researchers have found that lack orgasms can be hereditary. Question is, do you have the guts to speak openly about your sex life with your mama?
Speak with a sex therapist or general practitioner
Check in with your doctor or therapist to see what is going on with your bodies and other next steps available to you.
We often forget how attuned our bodies are with our daily lives. Put yourself first, as sexual health and pleasure are important to your overall health.